Massage for nervous system regulation

Many people book a massage because their back hurts, their neck feels stiff or they just want to relax. Massage often helps with all of these but something even more interesting may be happening underneath.

Our autonomic nervous system is constantly scanning the environment and asking one question: "Am I safe?"

The answer shapes how we breathe, how much tension we carry in our muscles, how we digest food, sleep, think and connect with others.

When the nervous system perceives safety, the parasympathetic branch becomes more active and slows out breathing, softens muscles, activates digestion and slows our heart rate.

Basically the body shifts from survival to restoration.

When we live with chronic stress, however, this flexibility can become reduced and the body may remain organized around protection keeping our muscles tense, our breathing shallow and the mind always alert even when there is no immediate danger. Digestion gets bad, we have trouble sleeping and our sex drive slowly dies.

I’ve spent 20 years in corporate environments and have met a lot of people who were permanently stressed. Sometimes they got sick the first day of long awaited holidays. Sometimes their nervous system forced them to stop completely by going into burnout. 

Massage is much more than muscle work.

Slow and rhythmic touch provides the nervous system with continuous sensory information that the environment is safe enough to soften.

As the body receives these signals, many people naturally notice:

• a deeper breath,

• warmth spreading through the body,

• spontaneous sighs,

• less muscle tension,

• quieter thoughts,

• a growing sense of presence,

• sometimes emotional release.

These are not signs that massage is "releasing trauma” but often they reflect a shift in autonomic state from protection toward regulation.

This is important to understand.

Massage does not erase traumatic memories (actually nothing does).

Massage also cannot replace psychotherapy when deeper cognitive trauma work is needed.

However, it can help restore one of the most important foundations for healing: a nervous system that feels safe enough to relax because in this relaxed state the energy that has been tied up in staying in survival gets freed up. I guess we can relate to having tunnel vision when we are stressed and how suddenly we see new options when we manage to relax a little, or how we suddenly feel more social and or playful.

This is also why every massage experience is different.

Some days your body lets go quickly while on other days the same body may stay guarded.

Neither is wrong.

Your nervous system is always doing its best to protect you and in my practice, massage is not about forcing relaxation but about listening to what your nervous system is ready for today and creating space for authentic reactions.

Sometimes that means deep relaxation but sometimes some anger gets released.

Sometimes it means simply discovering one breath that feels a little easier than the last.

It is creating experiences of moving between activation and rest, challenge and recovery, and seeing that your body can find its way back to balance when given enough space, time and presence.

This is one of the reasons I combine bodywork with an understanding of the nervous system and Somatic Experiencing®.

Because when the body feels safe enough, change often happens naturally.

If you would like to experience a massage that supports nervous system regulation, you can read more about my sessions here.

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The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk

Waking the Tiger - Peter A. Levine

Polyvagal Theory - Stephen W. Porges